the vast majority of child sex victims don’t grow up to be sex offenders or criminals. i know this because, and let me be direct, i was also one of carl buford’s victims. victimization does not cause offending. it can cause a lot of isolation. there can be anger, and rage. it can cause pain and suffering. but you can get through it. it can make you stronger. it does not have to destroy your life. it can make you fight back. and it can make you want to spend the rest of your life protecting others.
Apparently it’s not socially acceptable for a man to invite another man out just for coffee or to go out for a meal, in case it’s perceived as a date. Like it’s fine if you wanna go to the pub and drink beer and have a chat but make it non-alcoholic and suddenly you’re not straight anymore? You can go to the cinema together but ONLY if it’s an action movie. You guys can’t even just go shopping with each other. Oh masculinity, so fragile, so strange.
"Excuse me. I’m sorry, General. But who in my life isn’t a spy? My sister? My best friend? Should I just start asking people when I first meet them, "Hi I’d like the extra value meal, and while we’re on the topic, do you covertly work for a government faction?"